{"id":704,"date":"2021-01-22T17:22:32","date_gmt":"2021-01-22T17:22:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ariseestherconference.com\/?p=704"},"modified":"2021-01-22T17:22:33","modified_gmt":"2021-01-22T17:22:33","slug":"10-ways-parents-sin-by-idolizing-their-children","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ariseestherconference.com\/?p=704","title":{"rendered":"10 Ways Parents Sin by Idolizing Their Children"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Brenda Yoder<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cYou honor your sons more than me\u2026\u201d 1 Samuel 2:29b<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

God\u2019s word is complete for parenting. Even in 2019. 1 Samuel shares a principle parents of teens need to hear:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do you honor your children more than God?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s an eye-opening question. You strive to raise good kids. You want them to represent your family well. You want them to embrace Christ as their Savior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But in efforts to parent well, do you leave God by the wayside?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Preacher and His Sons<\/h5>\n\n\n\n

God posed this question to Eli, the High Priest, whose sons dishonored Him. They corrupted the sacrifice, intimidated parishioners, and had sex with women at the tabernacle gate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Good \u2018ole preacher\u2019s boys.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

God rebuked Eli because he turned a blind eye to what his sons were doing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do you turn a blind eye to your teen\u2019s behavior? Especially if it\u2019s something you\u2019ve done as a teen?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pastor Eli honored his children more than God. He ignored their immoral behavior and misrepresentation of God. God took the offense seriously. In fact, he ended all three of their lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

God takes our parenting seriously in relation to His holiness.God takes our parenting seriously in relation to His holiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

10 Questions To Ask Yourself<\/h5>\n\n\n\n

Even the best-meaning parents fall in the trap of indulging and enabling a child\u2019s sin more than honoring and loving God.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

God\u2019s asking you: Do you honor your children more than me?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re wondering if you do, consider these questions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Do you dishonor God by compromising His values for the culture\u2019s as you raise kids?<\/em> What TV shows, movies, or video games do you allow them to watch or play? Do the storylines honor God or dishonor Him?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. When your kids ask to do something because everyone\u2019s doing it,<\/em> do you allow it against your better judgement because you want them to fit in? Do you justify what you allow them to do because of fear they won\u2019t be popular or will be made fun of?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Do you ignore, overlook, or justify your child\u2019s sin nature when it needs corrected?<\/em> If your teen gets in trouble, do you blame others involved or ignore the possibility your child may have had a part? Do you find yourself saying, \u201cMy child couldn\u2019t possibly have done that!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Do you indulge your children by giving them what they ask for, even at financial cost or personal regret?<\/em> Do you feel trapped by your children\u2019s requests? Who controls ultimate decisions in these matters \u2013 you or your children?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. How do you enable your teen?<\/em> Do you do things for them they should do themselves? Do you justify their misconduct or blame others for their mistakes, lack of responsibility, or failed relationships?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6.\u00a0Does your desire to see your teen happy outweigh the pain of natural consequences they receive from poor choices?<\/em>\u00a0Do you remove consequences or fail to discipline because of their pleading, emotions, or black mail?Who controls ultimate decisions \u2013 you or your children?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. What is the ratio of children\u2019s activities and sports in relation to church or faith-based activities?<\/em> Do you make it a habit to miss church for sports-related activities with your kids? What overall message does your family schedule give to your children concerning God\u2019s priorities?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. Do you forgo tithing or short-change God financially so you can give your children the material things they want?<\/em> Do you honor your teen\u2019s material demands or give to God first?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. Do you value your role as mom or dad as your priority above your relationship with God?<\/em> Do you omit time in His word and prayer because you\u2019re \u201ctoo busy\u201d with kids activities or social events?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

10. Do you love your children more than your heavenly Father?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now What?<\/h5>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s tempting to think being a parent is your highest priority. In truth, God wants to be first above all things or before any other relationship. He is jealous that we honor Him before our spouse or children.When you honor God first, effective parenting follows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At the end of the day, God is who we answer to as parents. Your children, peers, or family members may not understand why you make \u201cold-fashioned\u201d parenting decisions, but they aren\u2019t who you answer to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s Jesus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What\u2019s convicted you today? What parenting changes do you need to make to be more honoring of God, and less absorbed by your children?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Brenda Yoder \u201cYou honor your sons more than me\u2026\u201d 1 Samuel 2:29b God\u2019s word is complete for parenting. Even in 2019. 1 Samuel shares a principle parents of teens need to hear: Do you honor your children more than God? It\u2019s an eye-opening question. You strive to raise good kids. You want them to represent … Read More about 10 Ways Parents Sin by Idolizing Their Children<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":705,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_genesis_hide_title":false,"_genesis_hide_breadcrumbs":false,"_genesis_hide_singular_image":false,"_genesis_hide_footer_widgets":false,"_genesis_custom_body_class":"","_genesis_custom_post_class":"","_genesis_layout":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[33,16],"class_list":["post-704","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-uncategorized","tag-parenting","tag-workshop-leader","entry"],"featured_image_src":"https:\/\/ariseestherconference.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/mom-863055_1920-600x400.jpg","featured_image_src_square":"https:\/\/ariseestherconference.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/mom-863055_1920-600x600.jpg","author_info":{"display_name":"ariseesther","author_link":"https:\/\/ariseestherconference.com\/?author=1"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ariseestherconference.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/704","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ariseestherconference.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ariseestherconference.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ariseestherconference.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ariseestherconference.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=704"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/ariseestherconference.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/704\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ariseestherconference.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/705"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ariseestherconference.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=704"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ariseestherconference.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=704"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ariseestherconference.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=704"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}